While going out on a date is one of the most pleasurable and hotly-anticipated experiences any single can experience, it’s also an activity fraught with tension and worry.
How is the evening going to progress?
Should I have got my unruly hairstyle attended to earlier this week?
What if we fail to kindle that spark of chemistry and they don’t want to see me again?
What if my attempts at humor merely create an awkward atmosphere?
The adoption of technology has changed the way we connect and converse with others in our society and dating is no exception. The prevalence of smart phones mean we are always contactable, social media allows others to get to know us before we have even met, and dating sites give us an abundance of choice in a suitable partner or partners. So, whether you met a prospective partner in some traditional outlet like a nightclub or bar, or via a site like this, when it comes to preparing for your next date, here are five affirmations to boost your confidence.
1. ‘I am a hospitable and sociable person, and people can easily recognize this’
It’s common for people to have negative thoughts before embarking on a date. They’ll consider the worst-case scenario – all the potential things that could go wrong – far more readily than focusing on the best-case scenario – the possibility of you hitting it off together, with this date becoming a stepping stone into an exciting new phase of your life. Accept how friendly and likable you are – don’t be modest. Keep telling yourself that you are a positive and inspirational person. Friends and family naturally warm to you, so why should your potential partner be any different?
2. ‘I have a lot of sex appeal, and shouldn’t try to conceal it
If you’re in a position where someone has agreed to meet up with you for a date, this is hardly likely to be because they were impressed by the shoes you were wearing when you first met. It will be because they’ve been drawn to your charisma, or because they find you attractive. In short, you’ve lured them in with your sex appeal and animal magnetism. These are potent factors that you should never shy away from. On the contrary, once you learn to embrace these qualities there will be nothing to hold you back!
3. ‘Each day brings me a renewed sense of optimism’
When you’re in the position of going out for initial dates with someone new and exciting, you should look upon it with as much optimism and excitement as you can muster. Now is the time to leave doubt behind, and certainly stop dwelling on any bitter experiences you’ve had in the recent past. Look upon your date as a fresh start, the launchpad of an exciting journey you are about to embark on. Meeting someone who could turn out to be a special person in your life should be seen as an adventure. You’re an explorer, going boldly into a bright future.
4. ‘If I open my heart to love, I won’t be disappointed’
Love is such a strong emotion, people are sometimes cautious about giving in to its full potency. But you should be prepared to embrace the sensation, even if you are just at the beginning of a new relationship. If you wear your heart on your sleeve, the person you are dating will be inspired to be equally forthcoming, letting their defenses down, bringing you even closer.
5. ‘My capacity for love is like an ocean’
It’s common to underestimate your emotions, or your capacity to embrace passion. What you need to impress upon yourself is that your ability to display and accept these strong feelings will know no bounds. True love isn’t something that can ever be quantified or rationed. Just accept you will be able to remain in a blissfully contented place for as long as you wish. As long as the depth of your sense of love is reciprocated, then look upon this as something that is going to be ongoing.
